It is the time of the year that you are reflecting what you have achieved so far.

Are you facing stress, changes, pressure, deadline, challenges and feel like you are losing control in your daily life with perhaps job dissatisfaction, financial burden, health deterioration, new relationships, or perhaps struggling with growing-up children? Are you feeling like a underachiever facing many changes in challenging situations at work, having difficulties getting along with colleges, bosses and customers?

The more you feel sorry for yourself and repeatedly ask why it happens to you, the more you get upset. There isn’t any quick solution and you end up with so many sleepless nights.

Unfortunately, adversity is a part of life and each of us may experience some form of adversity as in the above scenarios. How do you respond to the situations? Do you respond helplessly and suffer even more? Or do you want to bounce back and turn setbacks into positive events or opportunities.

Here are a few ways to manage everyday office or personal adversity and move on:

1. Take control and make an effort to improve the situation. Change the mindset of “assuming the worst”, and take stock of what you could do in “taking control and actions” to improve the situation. You need to face any negative assumptions of helplessness, make a commitment to change, switch on a battle gear to conquer the situation and make the situation work in your favour.
2. Call professionals for help or advice. Do not isolate yourself from others. Share your situation with trusted advisors, networks, friends and family who have had similar experiences and can guide you to overcome the adversity. Find more information that could help you to gain control over the situation.
3. See it as an opportunity and emerge stronger. You take on the challenge of adversity, accept the responsibility and find ways through problems solving or creativity skills to deal with the situation and turn the situations into advantages. You choose to see it as opportunity to grow, learn, improve, and eventually this mindset develops into a positive attitude and a belief system that fortifies hope and optimism to deal with each different adversity when they arise. “Every adversity carries within in it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” – Napoleon Hill
4. Develop your resilience ability. Research has shown a direct correlation between a person’s resilience and their job and relationship satisfaction. It highlighted the use of resilience ability brings “significant improvement in job satisfaction, productivity and retention in the workplace” that leads to greater happiness, work and life outcomes.
5. Learn to limit the reach of adversity from one area to other areas of your work or personal life. Take a specific action to deal with each challenge and limit the reach of adversity from spilling over and ruin other areas of your work life. Set limit how long the adversity will endure in its current state.

It is a fact of life that things change, So…next time when adversity strikes at work or personal life, gear up your resilience ability and respond more constructively to the setbacks in a calm and focused manner to enjoy a much fulfilling life.